Children and Dogs

It Can Be Great To Grow Up With A Dog In The Family and many children can benefit from sharing a home with a dog. Taking care of a dog can help older children learn to plan and be responsible, while exercising and playing with a dog at any age is an great way to release excess energy and keep fit. A dog can also give a child unconditional love and someone to talk to and there has also been extensive research into how dogs can help children with learning difficulties, ADHD, Asperger syndrome and Autism.

There is no denying that dogs make fantastic pets and companions, however, it is very important to recognise the potential hazards or dog ownership and try to minimise any risks where children are present.

The purpose of this article is to help you make sure that children are always safe around dogs (and Vice Versa!) we want people to be Mindful and Not Fearful of Dogs.

Sylas taking a well deserved rest, after an hour of playing at being a ‘police dog’ and catching imaginary criminals in the woods with his boy. They both had fun racing about at top speed.

Children Are Odd (from a dog’s perspective)

From a dog’s point of view, children communicate very differently to them as well as differently from adult humans; they are unpredictable –  they cry, yell, shriek and will suddenly run about – so it is not surprising that dogs can find it very difficult to understand and figure children out and even harder to tell them when they want to be left alone. It is also important to remember that not all dogs will want to interact and play with these odd little people and not all children will want to interact with dogs, so it is imperative that these ‘relationships’ are never forced upon either the dog or the child.


I’ll just hide here

Dog Bite Reality

The NHS states on its website that

“In the UK thousands of people each year go to an emergency department because they have been bitten by a dog. Probably many more bites occur, but people do not see a doctor about them, so it is hard to be sure”  

Despite the larger dogs breeds such as Rottweilers and Bull Breeds making the headlines for biting people, we know that people are far more likely to get bitten by smaller breeds of dog,  with Jack Russells, Chihuahuas, Dachshunds and Cocker Spaniels being the most likely; however, these are rarely reported as there is often very little damage done, compared to when someone is bitten larger breed of dog.

 Research has shown that dog bites occur most frequently

  • To children under the age of 15, (0-9 years being  the highest) and to boys more than girls
  • To people and children within their own homes (approximately 80%)
  • By dogs that are familiar to them (Approximately 80-90%).
  • The majority of the child/dog interactions that result in bites are initiated by the child.
  • The bites are often on the wrist or hand but children are much more at risk of head injuries than adults, because of their height in relation to the size of the dog.

*sources:  Health & Social Care Information Centre NHS

With this in mind, educating children as well as adults is the key to reducing this risk. It is just as important for parents to teach their children how to handle and behave around dogs as it is for dog owners to understand and ensure their dogs are properly socialised and handled,  because even the most mild mannered and well behaved family pet may react  to being pulled around, jumped on or trod on accidentally.


Reading Your Dog’s Body Language

It is really important to learn to understand the dog’s body language so that you can immediately see when your dog is uncomfortable in a situation (with or without children present) and remove him or her.


Dogs may use one or a combination of the above signals to try and stop whatever is happening. If these signals are ignored and prove unsuccessful, then they may  escalate to other more ‘active signals’ of communication which include teeth baring, shifting weight (to ease escape), growling, barking and eventually snapping. This is why it is important that dogs are always provided with a place of safety i.e their bed, and when they are there, they should be left alone; it also means that if you miss their signals of discomfort for any reason, that they can move themselves away.

It is rare for a dog to growl, air snap or bite without any warning at all and in the vast majority of the cases where bites have occurred, it is because adults have missed or ignored all of the warning signs mentioned above.

It is unfair to expect a dog not to react to an uncomfortable situation; imagine if you were not allowed to move away from a person who was constantly prodding you, or doing something equally as unpleasant – if your requests to stop were ignored,  how long do you think you could tolerate the behaviour before you yelled at them or poked them back?


The dog on the left is happy and relaxed.
The dog on the right is stressed and worried, he is licking his lips, his ears are back and he is looking away. Sadly, if these signs are not recognised (or are ignored) by the owners and the dog has no option but to take his warnings to the next level.


Signs A Dog May Show When He Or She Is Uncomfortable In a Particular Situation

Signs A Dog May Show When He Or She Is Uncomfortable In a Particular Situation

Common Sense Around Dogs

Teaching all children (even those that do not have a family dog) how to behave around dogs, and indeed any animal, should be a priority. So here are a few guidelines for parents and dog owners.

  • A child should NEVER be left alone with a dog no matter how trusted or how long you have had the dog. Even if you are just popping upstairs to the loo, separate the dog and the child.
  • The dog must always be able to leave the room, so it can move away from a situation it doesn’t feel comfortable with. Even if your are supervising the dog and the child, make sure that the dog can always get away from the child (or indeed any other people) to another room if it wants to.
  • The dog must have an area where he or she can settle undisturbed, when he or she wants some quiet alone time or to eat or drink. Children must be taught never to disturb the dog when resting, sleeping, eating or drinking. The dog’s bed or crate should be completely out of bounds for the kids (adults shouldn’t be in there either!)
  • Children should be taught to respect a dog’s physical and emotional welfare. A dog must not be teased, have it’s fur or tailed pulled or have food taken from it. They also need to know that dog is not a toy or doll and should not be picked up, hugged, kissed, carried around, ridden, rolled on or dressed up, all of which can make it grumpy and snappy. It is very unreasonable to expect the dog not to react if he or she is hurt by tail pulls or eye pokes or by being dropped by children.

Looks cute doesn’t it?  

This could be an accident waiting to happen.
Don’t let your children crawl over or jump on the dog




  • A dog is not a toy to be dressed up. There is nothing wrong with occasionally dressing a dog up in an outfit for a special occasion like Halloween or Christmas, if he or she tolerates it well. However,  it should always be done by an adult, not a child and the clothing should be removed if the dog looks uncomfortable.
  • Children should to be taught how to be gentle with the dog. Adults and children should not play rough and aggressive or chase (where the dog is encouraged to chase people) games with the dog as this can encourage unwanted behaviour. Avoid play fighting with or taunting the dog to make it protective or jealous, because this tends to backfire badly later if the dog ever misjudges the situation.
  • Never encourage your child to approach a dog that is tied up and/or unattended, even if you know the dog and it’s owner. Dogs that are tied up do not have a ‘flight’ option – if they feel spooked or threatened, anxiety levels will rise and even the most mild mannered dog may resort to growls or even a snap.
  • Never encourage your child to approach a dog, without first having gained the permission of the owner. 
  • Many dogs dislike hugging and close face-to-face contact, unless they have instigated it themselves. Children should never hug, squeeze, hold, carry or kiss a dog that does not live with them (many dogs really dislike being hugged, especially by strangers). At home, you need to watch your dog carefully for any signs that he or she is uncomfortable in this situation and if in doubt don’t allow it to happen.
  • Don’t take food or treats off the dog (unless it is an emergency). You wouldn’t like someone to do it to you so don’t expect your dog to be happy if you take their food away; in fact taking food off the dog is more likely to cause problems in the future. If you want to make your dog safe around food the best way to do it is drop extra titbits in their bowl while they eat or drop some next to them when they are chewing on a treat. (you can contact us for further advice on this). Never let children play with your dog’s food bowls.

If you have been advised to take food off your dog to prevent it becoming ‘dominant’ (usually because a certain so called ‘dog whisperer’ from the USA, who has absolutely no dog training or behaviour qualifications at all and uses bullying and outdated methods to ‘train’ is popular on tv), please stop. Please have a rethink of this extremely outdated and frankly dangerous training method. 

  • Children should not take the dog out for a walk without an adult present unless they are old enough to take responsibility for the dog and it’s needs whilst outside the home; they must be able to pick up poop and keep the dog under control and out of trouble with other dogs and people.

Do Not Disturb!

Simple Rules For Children 

  • Always ask permission from the owner AND your parent/guardian before approaching a dog that is not your own. If you don’t know the dog’s name you must not touch it.
  • Never go near a dog without an owner present, even if you know the dog. This is especially important to remember if a dog is tied up to something.
  • Always offer a closed hand for the dog to sniff before attempting to stroke it
  • Try not to stare directly into a dog’s eyes (dogs think this is rude)
  • If you have been given permission to touch the dog, stroke only its neck, chest, shoulders or back (unless the owner tells you  otherwise). Don’t stroke or pat a dog that is not yours on its head; lots of dogs don’t like their heads patted (or even touched) by strangers – imagine if a complete stranger did that to you!
  • Never approach a dog in its sleeping area/bed or while it is asleep
  • Never try to take food or toys away from a dog – ask an adult to help you if the dog has taken something that is yours.
  • Always talk quietly to a dog (no yelling or screeching)
  • Never hit or kick a dog
  • Never pull a dog’s hair, tail or ears
  • Don’t hug or kiss a dog that does not live with you (your own dog may not like this either)
  • If you are frightened of a dog, stand still like a statue or lamp post, with your arms folded and look away from the dog – then call for an adult.  If a dog accidentally knocks you over, roll into a ball on the ground. Do not scream, or yell, or run away from the dog

A good rule is if your don’t know the dog’s name you can’t stroke it.  This means that hopefully a child will always ask before approaching strange dog.

How NOT To Interact

The Blue Dog CD

  • An interactive CD Rom called The Blue Dog has been developed in collaboration with vets, teachers, behaviourists and child psychologists and is available to buy from most veterinary surgeries and online. It is aimed at children aged between 3 and 7 years old and is a fun and enjoyable way for them to learn how to behave around dogs by making choices from what they are shown on the CD. It also comes with a printed parent guide. For more information visit Castle vets has a limited stock of these cds.

 Safe Ways For Children To Interact With Dogs

  • Clicker training is fun and simple for children over 6 years old (some younger ones may be able to do it as well), it will encourage the bond between the child and the dog and help both learn something new.
  • Fetch games can be great fun, but make sure your dog is taught to drop the toy and allow the child to pick it up safely. Using a tennis ball and a throw stick is great as the scoop mechanism means no little hands in the way.
  • Hide and seek games in the park with a treat as a reward for a successful find. Make sure you hold onto the dog until the hider is hidden and then encourage him or her to find them. The hider can reward with treats or a toy when found.
  • Attend a training class with the kids and the dog. There are even training classes that are set up with young trainers in mind.
  • Young Kennel Club is great for kids whether you own a pedigree dog or a crossbreed dog (or no dog at all). Membership includes access to Crufts and discover dogs every year and the regular magazines teach all about dog ownership, breeds etc and offer the kids a chance to write their own articles. There are also regular activities, events and even holiday camps.


What To Do If You Are Expecting A Baby

  • Try not to change your dog’s routine too much before or after the baby arrives. If necessary ask a family member or friend to help exercise your dog while you are in hospital and once your baby is home as you may not have the time to do this.
  • Getting the cot, pram, high chair and other baby related equipment out several months before the baby’s arrival can help your dog grow accustomed to the new things gradually, rather than having to deal with everything new at once.
  • There are several sound cds available that have baby and children noises on them. These can be played at a low level in the month before the baby comes so that your dog becomes accustomed to normal baby noises. (Clix – Noises & Sounds – Therapy CD For Dogs)
  • It is a good idea to teach the dog to settle on a rug or blanket on command and stay there so you have more control.
  • Dogs want to be a part of the family in the same way they were before the baby arrived. So instead of keeping the dog completely away, create barriers with playpens and baby gates, so the entire family can be in the common areas of the home together.
  • If your dog currently has free run of the whole house but you are planning to prevent access to some areas once the baby arrives, you need to start training your dog to this new routine at least 4-5 months before the baby’s arrival. Rewards for being where he or she is supposed to be will help enforce this.
  • Buy an Adaptil diffuser or collar as it may help your dog to be more relaxed about the changes happening in the home. This should start a few weeks before the new baby arrives.
  • On the day you come home with the baby, the new mum should enter the house first and greet the dog and perhaps have a little play session. After a short while the baby can be brought in and introductions can begin. Hopefully the dog will just ignore the new arrival completely while he or she focuses on the owner that has been away.
  • Closely supervise your dog around your new baby and provide calm, quiet praise when he or she behaves properly. This could be as simple as the dog calmly sniffing the baby’s clothing or blanket or enjoying a toy in the same room as the baby. You should praise this behaviour with a soft voice and a gentle stroking. By praising your dog, you are reinforcing that the baby is a positive thing.
  • Remember to NEVER leave your dog alone with your baby even for just a minute.
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    Hello new baby

Links and Resources

We hope you found our article informative, but please remember that it is intended as a guide to help you make the right decisions regarding your children and your dog.

Castle Vets have a dedicated veterinary nurse who is very happy to visit schools and children’s clubs to talk about dog safety and general pet care, free of charge. You can book a visit by emailing the practice 

A single dog bite prevention lesson incorporated into a regular school day has been shown to dramatically reduce high risk behaviors toward unfamiliar dogs in both very young and middle-school children.

If you are at all worried by your dog’s behaviour around children then please contact the practice and we can put you in touch with a qualified and approved canine behaviourist who can work with you and your dog.